Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Insecure Writers Support Group


HAPPY 2ND ANNIVERSARY, IWSG!

Courtesy of Alex J. Cavanaugh. Clicky-clicky for full list of participants

Anyone else out there watch It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia?

I ask, because I'm about to go on a rambling description of a scene involving one of the characters that will loosely tie into my IWSG theme this month.

Sweet Dee (the main female character) is meeting with her psychiatrist. Dee is a failed actress/comedian mostly because Dee the character sucks at acting, (while Kaitlin Olson the actress who plays Dee is amazing). Anyway, after doing a few lines from Good Will Hunting in a terrible Boston accent, Dee says to the psychiatrist "That was good, wasn't it? Tell me that was good." The psychiatrist tries to redirect Dee, but she won't give up. "Tell me that was good," she says. "Tell me I'm good. Tell me I'm good. Tellmei'mgoodtellmei'mgoodtellmei'mgoodtellmei'mgood--". This goes on for a little while longer until the shrink snaps and tells Dee that she's good.

Man, I wish I could find a gif of this, or a clip of it from Youtube, because it's amazing to see just how insane Dee is, and how desperate she is for validation (and it's actually funny when you see it, instead of me trying to write it out).

Sound familiar? Maybe not the insanity, (or maybe it is the insanity?), but the need for validation. Have you ever given something you wrote to someone to read, and wanted to just get in their face and demand for them to tell you how awesome it is? I haven't, but sometimes I really want to.

I really want someone to tell me I'm good, that my writing is good, without any qualifiers. "I really liked it, but..." I hate buts.

On the other hand, I think if I ever get to the point where I don't get any buts, that's the day that I'm so rich and famous that I'll just be surrounded by sycophants who will tell me what I want to hear all day.

You know what? I could live with that.

Anyway, anybody else out there want to scream "Tell me I'm good," or is it just me?

Just me?

Ok.

*quietly slinks out of the internet*

10 comments:

  1. It's not just you. But, just like with the actress, it doesn't matter. Just because the psychiatrist said she was good, doesn't make it so.

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  2. I hear you. I try to tell myself I'm good every day. I think the upbeat is important as long as I keep away from fairy tale mentality. :) Happy IWSG day!

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  3. I think you're always going to get 'buts' simply because everyone has different opinions. There will be people that love everything about your writing, but then there will be people that only like certain aspects of it.

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  4. Don't laugh, but I haven't heard of this show. I promise, I don't live under a rock. :) I think we all like to hear I'm good. I find the best one to say this, is myself. Most others don't have time or they don't make time. I hate buts, too. Man they can be mood killers.

    I think it's wise to be your own cheerleader. Wave your own pom-poms and tell yourself "I'm good" every day. Watch the cute video from a couple of years ago about the little girl who stands in the mirror telling her reflection all the things she likes about herself and her life. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qR3rK0kZFkg :D

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    1. I've seen that video, and that little girl is so cute.

      Don't worry about never having heard of the show. It's not exactly quality television. It's basically a group of people in situations that escalate quickly, and end with everyone screaming at each other. I think it's hilarious, but I'll be the first to say that not everyone will appreciate the humor.

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  5. I hate buts as well. You just want that one person to gush endlessly over it. When it does happen though I must say as un-stoic as it may sound, it is one of the best feelings ever.

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  6. I could live with that as well!
    Even when they tell you a few buts (such as notes from critique partners) it's all right if the rest of it was awesome. And my critique partners are hilarious, so I laugh my way through their comments.
    And glad the IWSG has made a difference to you! That is why I started it. We all need a little support sometimes.

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  7. Haha, yes, I know that feeling well! During my first NaNoWriMo, I made the mistake of asking my wife to read what I had written so far.

    At first she didn't say much, except that the main character 'sighed too much' and I was thinking..."I didn't ask for that...just tell me you like it!", lol.

    I think we all go through that, though, just another part of the 'writing thing' :)

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  8. Yes! I have done this! I still remember handing the very first page of my very first novel to my mom and my dad to read (this was when I was 11 or 12). Mom said it was good. My dad said there was too much description. (He was right).

    And today, when I give them things to read, it's pretty much the same - Mom will tell me it's good, while Dad gives me his honest opinion on what is wrong with it. This is why parents don't make good critique partners. LOL

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  9. I'm even more messed up than that. I want to hear that I'm good, but when I hear it I assume that the speaker thinks my work is so bad and that I am therefore so pitiful that they need to be 'kind' to me. Even though I know objectively that I am good, or at least good-enough, as a writer, though I always want to keep improving.

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